So, what does anger have to do with this?

“My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.” –James 1:19-20

Okay, so I’m confused. I understand the part about “Be quick to listen and slow to speak.” Got it. They go together. But what’s the deal with this whole “and slow to become angry?” What does this have to do with anything? Sure, it makes sense on its own, but what does anger have to do with speaking and listening?

Well, come to find out, James is not completely original in what he is saying. He is quoting partially from the book of Sirach, which is considered Jewish devotional literature. You could say it is their version of “Streams in the Desert.” It was written about 200 BC. In one passage, it says, “Be quick to hear, and be deliberate in answering. If you have understanding, answer your neighbor; but if not, put your hand on your mouth. Glory and dishonor come from speaking, and a man’s tongue is his downfall.” It’s nice, but it still doesn’t mention anything about anger.

I guess I’ll take a shot at it. For one, it is speaking largely of emotional responses. If you think about it, a lot of times we speak and say things we shouldn’t because of our emotional states. Anger is also largely emotional. However, it also makes sense that when we get into a discussion with someone, often times we say something or they say something that deeply upsets us. It may be intentional or not, but it happens. I believe James is teaching us that we need to not only be careful about what we say, but also we must be very careful against becoming angry when someone says something offensive towards us.

So here’s the deal: whether its your boss, your spouse, or your kids that say something offensive to you, just stop. Take a deep breath. Try to hear whatever it is they were trying to say, or remember, maybe they’re just having a bad day. Maybe you just need to walk away. Maybe you need to give them the opportunity to clarify. Maybe you even need to confront them with their inappropriate behavior. But slow down! Be patient. Choose your words wisely. And remember, their words don’t justify your anger.